My Story
I was freefalling after a relationship ended abruptly; I didn’t know who I was anymore. I genuinely felt like I would never be able to trust myself again.
I thought I had gone into the relationship with my eyes wide open, sure of what I wanted, an emotionally available partner who I could share life with. I had spent time alone and I was clear on what behaviours I would tolerate, having lost myself in relationships all my life.
However, old patterns surfaced, I began to shape myself into who I thought I ‘should’ be. I ignored so many red flags!
Telling myself I was maybe being unreasonable in my expectations and that maybe I should change so I don’t end up alone forever.
What if this was my last chance at love?
CRAZY.
Then, 12 months in, I was completely blindsided by behaviours I never expected.
My whole world was flipped upside down. How could I have betrayed myself like this? I did not recognise the woman I was anymore.
It was the kind of rawness I’ve experienced with grief, but this time it was grief for the woman I thought I was. Strong, successful and self-aware.
If that was true, how had I let this happen? How had I lost myself to this relationship, abandoned all my needs and desires to make sure I was ‘loveable’.
I questioned EVERYTHING.
Why was I doing this time after time? Was there something wrong with me? How could I trust any decision I made if I got this one SO WRONG. Was my whole life the product of what other people wanted?!
A big question.
I spiralled and felt like I was sleepwalking through each day.
Being in that liminal state for months, wandering aimlessly through my life and trying all the usual practices to heal from heartbreak, I eventually realised I had to be the one to make some changes, to how I showed up for myself in relationships.
If nothing changes, then nothing changes.
I found an awesome coach who opened the door to personal development, I got sober, started exercising regularly, read more non-fiction and as my world view expanded, I started trusting myself and my decisions, this time with an entirely new perspective.
I know I needed to have this experience to break me so I could rebuild and become so grounded and sure of who I was and what I wanted, so I would never let this happen again. I wanted to create the life I craved, not the life I was conditioned to believe I ‘should’ have.
Now I guide high-achieving women, post-break up, through the wasteland of who she thought she was and lead her into who she is becoming.
I help you understand why you mould yourself into who you think they want you to be so you never do this again.
This is what I needed when I was in the same situation - options for practical moves forward, life experience from someone who has been there and come out the other side, and an action plan to get me clear on what I wanted away from the ‘shoulds’.
This is exactly how I support you.
We work on strengthening your body and mind. I offer personalised training plans for your fitness and physical wellbeing, and we also delve into your personal development and self reflection with various modalities that supported me, including journaling, cacao and meditation.
All created with intention to support YOU and your journey.
